IQ and good grades can help you get a great job, but it will probably be your Social and Emotional Intelligence (EQ) that will make the biggest difference in your ability to work effectively on a team, get promotions and feel fulfilled in your work. Many researchers are saying that EQ is the best predictor of people’s success in life.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.
If you have high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life.
One of the most important foundational skills to being emotionally and socially intelligent is the ability to empathize with other people. Empathy is often described as the ability to put aside our own thoughts and stories so that we are able to fully hear and feel what someone else is experiencing.
This brilliant animated video explores how to empathize with someone as opposed to pitying them or trying to “fix” them:
In addition, this clever RSA video explains the mirror neurons that work in our brain to help us relate to someone else and how our world could be developing towards broader empathic connections between all humans and our “fellow creatures who share this earth.”
Finally, if you want some more ideas on how to develop your ability to empathize, here are some great tips: